Only purchase things you truly love!
A. Put it back if it doesn't fit or feel right... Something better will come along! I have moved back and forth from Hawaii to the mainland three times and every time it has whittled the items of choice down to only the very near and dear. I know when I truly love something now...
If it doesn't enhance or edify the conversation then don't say it...
A. This was a very very hard lesson to learn! 30 years in the making. I have had to live down some rough stuff with family and friends and now I find myself leaving things "left unsaid" instead.
B. We don't need to hear EVERYTHING about you. Leave a little to mystery.
C. The conversation does NOT have to be a personal retelling of your resume. ( Lord knows I have tried to edge my own "two cents" in about my accomplishments.)
Live and let go...
A. Please just bury the hatchet. The hate, anger, and unforgivness is only affecting yourself!
Have reasonable expectations.
A. If someone does something nice for you is is just the icing on the cake. Not the reason we bake!
B. Let people choose how they can show there affections.
No one is thinking about you. They're thinking about themselves, just like you.
A. Admittedly I stole this form the book Olivia Joules: And the overactive imagination. She has some great rule for life!!!
Very Useful Rules for Living
1. Never panic. Stop, breathe, think.
2. No one is thinking about you. They're thinking about themselves, just like you.
3. Never change haircut or color before an important event.
4. Nothing is either as bad or as good as it seems.
5. Do as you would be done by, e.g. thou shalt not kill.
6. It is better to buy one expensive thing that you really like than several cheap ones that you only quite like.
7. Hardly anything matters: if you get upset, ask yourself, "Does it really matter?"
8. The key to success lies in how you pick yourself up from failure.
9. Be honest and kind.
10. Only buy clothes that make you feel like doing a small dance.
11. Trust your instincts, not your overactive imagination.
12. When overwhelmed by disaster, check if it's really a disaster by doing the following: (a) think, "oh, F*&% it," (b) look on the bright side and, if that doesn't work, look on the funny side.
If neither of the above works then maybe it is a disaster so turn to items 1 and 4.
13. Don't expect the world to be safe or life to be fair.
14. Sometimes you just have to go with the flow.
15. Don't regret anything. Remember that wasn't anything else that could have happened, given who you were and the state of the world at the moment. The only thing you can change is the present, so learn from the past.
16. If you start regretting something and thinking, "I should have done..." always add, "but then I might have been run over by a lorry or blown up by a Japanese-manned torpedo."
This last lesson being the most recent and most heartfelt one....
Just let the tears flow, Cry!! Don't worry about your makeup, if it is inappropriate time to tear up excuse yourself and make your way to the bathroom. Don't hold it in, EVER!
